VIRGINITY- IS IT IMPORTANT ?
The greatest gift that a man can give his bride on their wedding night is his purity. It says to her, “You are so special and our marriage is so special that I kept myself for you.” Any girl would be thrilled with a husband like that!
The greatest gift a bride can give to her husband on her wedding night is her purity. Keep it for the right person and the right time. The right person is the one you marry, and the right time is your wedding night.
Well the above two para say it all. Virginity is important, Its our character certificate. Not only WOMEN but MEN TOO.....Every young person is given a priceless gift—his or her virginity. You can give this gift to only one person and you can give it only one time....Lets put it in this way...
Suppose a wealthy relative gave you a very expensive jewel.It was the most beautiful diamond you had ever seen! It was priceless! This exceedingly valuable gift was given to you with the understanding that sometime in your life, you would have the privilege of giving it to someone very special to you. You could give it to only one person and only one time. When you gave it away, it was given away for good. How would you handle this gift?
Would you give it to the first person who saw it and admired it? Would you give it to a casual friend whom you had just met and might not be seeing again? Would you give it to someone who demanded that you prove your love for him by giving it to him?
Would you give it away carelessly because others were pressuring you or making fun of you for wanting to keep this gift until you met the right person?
You would say, “Of course not! I would keep it until I met the right person—someone who was worthy of my priceless gift.”
If you give away your virginity carelessly, you will one day regret it. Giving your virginity away is like giving someone your priceless diamond and discovering later that you gave it to the wrong person. Now that person is gone…and so is your diamond.
Every romantic relationship you are involved in will some day come to an end—except for one. The only one that will last is the one that leads to marriage. If you give away your priceless virginity in one of those other relationships, you will regret it.
(This paras have been taken from the Youth world, Lesson 9: The priceless gift)
i am sharing this with you all because i like it and i respect the views of the author....and here are my thoughts
I don't know i will abide by it or not but till date i have stayed firm and i can proudly say I am a 23 year old now and i am still virgin. You can say may be its my misfortune or may be my good luck, that i am still pure.
On Indispire, the question asked was, should Virginity be regarded as a character certificate for girls ? . My answer is of course, it should be and it is. Not only for women but men too. Many who would be reading this, would label me as a hypocrite that common IZZY, You are saying this, your blog itself contains erotic poems and stories..but see the point is i am still virgin....and why i write all this...i would tell this to youi some other day....People will say, common dude, we are living in the 21st century, this things don't matter. Ok then, shall we start fucking each other just for the sake that its 21st century.
What would you call a girl who gets herself banged every time she gets into a relation ? won't you call her characterless, a girl who makes herself accessible to every other guy who approaches him.... what would you call a guy who in the name of relationships, has several sexual relations..of course a jerk. Now her some girls would object by saying common, a guy with so many girlfriends is considered as cool. but think for a while, if at all while having sex, he is caught by his parents or his relatives or media...what would the world actually call him, won't his parents despise him. They would of course, if they actually Love their son. He is considered cool only in his friend circle which actually consists of immoral fools.
Pre-marital sex rides high on guilt, you are actually disrespecting your own body. You are disrespecting your ownself. And someday you will regret that you were used by someone who never respected you.....
Hebrews 13:4: Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
I wish to write more.........hence end it up by.......saying...to be continued....
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ReplyDeletewell thanx...you promoted it....;)
Deletefor the next post....you would have to wait till monday..i usually dont blog on saturdays and sundays...:)
Virginity being a diamond is so hilarious! I don't agree with you one bit. A person,male or female has the right to choose his or her own life style and who are we to judge others. Regarding the blog post" Is virginity important?" i have only one thing to say , its just a hymen! Chill and enjoy life.
ReplyDeleteAnd
Deletenow a days....People dont consider their virginity precious is actually
hilarious for me....:D
and ya true that we are no1 to judge any1......i was asked to write my
thots on this issue...so i wrote it..this are my personal thoughts...em
not forcing any 1 to follow dem neither can 1.....and ya i know its the
hymen factor...hymen can breakdown even if a woman undergoes heavy
physical exercise....quite common in female weight lifters...i have
studied biology in my school for 2 years...;)
I don't agree with what you have written, its funny at times. I am surprised at times, yet its interesting to know about different views!
ReplyDeleteyeah....em perfectly ok wid it...if u dont agree...:)
Deleteand ya its great to see views of diffrent people around u...;)
How can a tissue lining can become a precious diamond??
ReplyDeleteI respect that u r still virgin...that an individual choice,i respect and I dont look you down for that,But i dont agree that virginity is a chracter certificate for anyone.
Well...thanx...u
Deleterespect me...;)
and ya its not about that tissue lining...Virginity is not an issue
rather wid whom you are sleeping...is the issue.....the feelings
involved are important....for u it may not be that important....thats
ok....its ur life....u have ur own thoughts...n i respect it....:)
I feel it is up to the individual to make a choice, Isaac.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that Society judges. Wish rules would be the same for all- irrespective of gender. Man/Woman no bar!
Even I felt & still feel the same way about virginity the way you feel now.
But, we must also realize- A person may save himself/herself as that's their belief, however their partner may be subscribing to a different belief...It's an individual's choice. Everyone is entitled to do what they are comfortable with.
Yeah...everyone has the right to lead their life the way they want too....but the problem comes when this so called dudes and babes try to make fun of people who are leading a simple life.....insulting them at times...and i dont like that..so this post is actually a tight slap on those so called cool dudes and babes....
DeleteSimplicity and virginity are two entirely different things. I don't think they have any connection to being 'cool' or not cool. Again, just an opinion...
DeleteIf virginity gives us the character certificate for marriage, then drinking, college bunking, having bfs/gfs, a brahmin eating non veg, a casual boy girl hug etc etc everything should be included.. there has to be a checklist :) only then ppl should get married.. It is funny.. I still don't understand why "being virgin or not" is considered as a topic at all.. why still the word "virgin".. why cant she be considered just as a woman?? What people do with their lives after or before marriage is their personal choice. So it means a divorced woman or a widow is impure and doesn't have the right to get married again???
ReplyDeleteThe list you mentioned above like drinking, college bunking......this two mistakes can be correct....people who bunk classes can give extra hours to studies....and drinking is ok....too much of drinking is harmful......a casual boy-gal hug is a sweet thing to do..so nothing wrong in that....a brahmin who eats non veg will shit it out after some hours...so he becomes pure again...:-D and i never said that gals who are not virgins are not women...but do such gals openly discuss about about their sexual partners.....u say that what people do b4 marriage is their personal choice....ok fine....marriage is a relation based on trust.....and most gals hide their pre marital sexual relationships from their hubbies...why so..if they think they did the right thing...why to hide...they shud tell their hubby that they slept wid dis many people....:-P
DeleteAnd divorced women and widows are not impure...i already said that its not about sex...its about the person with whom u have it that matters.....so Shruthi nayak i hope u got the point.....
See the list you mentioned above..like drinking too much is harmful...people can drink occasionally and i dont think society treats drunkards with respect...and i dont think no gal would want to marry a drunkard....college bunking doesnt matters much becoz what matters is ur degree...whether u pass or not is what matters.....a brahmin eating non-veg will shit it out in some hours...so he becomes pure again...:-D
DeleteA boy-gal having a casual hug is a sweet thing to do.....nothing wrong in that.....and now lets get to the main point...u say what people do b4 marriage is their personal choice...agreed...and you may also believe that Marriage is a relation based on trust....so why do people hide their pre-marital sexual lives from their spouse....if they think what they did is right.....why fear..they shud openly speak out that they slept wid dis many people.....:-D But many dont do that..why so....i would be glad if you have an answer to it....Shruthi nayak....;-) and divorced women and widows are not impure....i have already said that.....its not sex that matters..but the person wid whom ur having it which matters...
Going by your logic, shouldn't the guys also disclose the gals they've slept with before marriage? I don't think men also discuss matters openly with their would-be. So why the prejudice?
DeleteHmm..2 thoughts! One, It's a strong headed view - whether of agree or disagree can be left for some other day. Two, why have only females commented? Am I sensing something?
ReplyDeleteHaha very interesting observations. Even I noticed the same...
DeleteWell i actually dont have an answer why only females commented....i guess may be they thought...this post is against them...may be they think this post is offensive and attacks the sexual freedom that this society is enjoying.reason can be anything...:-D
DeleteI totally support your point. People most often get annoyed with people of high morals. They try to demean the morally right thing to make themselves feel normal.
ReplyDeleteThanks Gaurav and i agree wid what u said...:-D
DeleteThe problem today is that sex is seen as pleasure and nothing more. Sex is in fact far more; it's sharing of oneself, it's a commitment. ...
ReplyDeleteExactly Sir...that's what is happening this days...sex without commitment........:-(
DeleteI would like to link here my one research article which is based on facts of sex , what is sex today and what was sex in real ?
ReplyDeleteI had written this article after enough research work and it is in hindi language as more peoples can read it. It is little bit long but very interesting and very usefull. There are so many strange facts which we dont knw and may be would never know. Please read it and give your feedback n comments.
Click here to read-
http://nickslastbench.blogspot.in/2012/01/sex-today-and-reality.html
ya ofcourse sir would do it...
Deletedon't worry i support your views :D people think its just a tissue/hymen...but its not...its more like you mentioned feelings, emotions and very private thing...it can't be shared around with everyone just cos its 21st century and feel cool abt it...having said that burden of purity must be shared by both genders and not left to gals alone :-)
ReplyDeleteHe he he he...why should i worry..he he he...for being Criticised..not at all...i am ok wid that....vaise thank you for your precious and valuable support..:-P
DeleteI believe you have a right to form your own opinion. Just for the info:
ReplyDeleteHymen can break during excessive stretching (while playing sports or recreational activities), while cycling, while riding on the horseback, probably while poking around the area in early childhood when she did not even had a clue that this very tissue was so important for a person. So definitely its not a jewel.
Of course there are other things that I may not speak up publicly but I plan to write another post if I get time over the same topic.
Do u want to say Anmol that Virginity is just about Hymen.....common dude....vaise thanx for putting up this sensitive topic on indispire....
DeleteI think this is a more personal matter than anything else. In fact, I am a little taken aback by the preaching tone of the article. I am not advocating the loss of virginity, but I find that stamping one's opinion to judge a girl as a slut or a guy as a jerk because of their way of life is just being too judgemental and disrespectful. If you don't agree with that kind of a lifestyle, it would be better to just let them have it their way rather than branding them using derogatory terms just to prove your point.
ReplyDeleteNo offence meant. Just my opinion.
well siddharth.....whom should i respect..whom i shouldnt is my personal choice..;-) you cannot deprive me of my rights..:-D
DeleteWe respect people whom we want to..isnt it..respect should not be forced upon som1..:-P
I never said anything about respect, except that you find their way of life as being disrespectful. I am not telling you to respect them. I am only recommending a reduction of judgement in your tone of writing. Having an opinion and branding someone based on your judgement are two entirely different things. I hope you get where I'm coming from.
Deletenice to see the attention the post has got. go against the flow and you are famous, good work.
ReplyDeletehe he he he he...that was not intentional Datta Ghosh....:-D
DeleteHey Isaac, you are clever !! A controversial topic and people debate and discuss !! Good traffic I liked it. !!
ReplyDeletehe he he he he...thanks yaar...:-D
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